7 Things No One Tells You About Breastfeeding (But Should)

As a mom of four and a newborn photographer, I've spent a lot of time around new moms, and there's always a lot of talk about breastfeeding. While the basics are covered in most resources, there are some deeper truths that don't get shared enough. So, I’m here to tackle some of the misconceptions and share the real, honest side of breastfeeding. These are things I wish someone had told me early on – it would’ve saved me a lot of unnecessary stress.

1. Your Body's Timeline Is Your Own

A common misconception is that there’s a perfect timeline for when your milk should come in. Some people make it sound like there’s a clock ticking, but that’s not the case.

Some moms have their milk come in within days, while others wait a bit longer. I remember feeling pretty stressed with my first baby because it felt like I wasn’t following the "right" timeline. I thought I was doing something wrong.

The truth is, every body’s different, and that’s totally fine. Some moms need more time to get their milk supply up, and others seem to have more than enough right away.

It doesn’t mean anything’s wrong – your body just has its own schedule.

2. It’s an Emotional Ride, and That’s Okay

No one really prepares you for how emotional breastfeeding can be. Between the hormones and the connection you’re building with your baby, it can be a lot.

You might find yourself crying over the smallest things – sometimes out of joy, sometimes because you’re just overwhelmed or exhausted. It can be isolating during those late-night feeds.

The misconception is that breastfeeding is just about nourishment, but it’s also about connecting and transitioning into motherhood. Feeling emotional is part of the process, and it’s completely normal.

3. Physical Changes You Don’t Expect

Most people only talk about milk production, but your whole body is impacted by breastfeeding. Yes, you’ll make milk, but you might also find your posture shifting as you try to find the most comfortable feeding positions.

And then there’s the crazy thirst that hits you during letdown, or the sudden hunger that feels like you’re pregnant all over again. It’s all part of your body’s way of nurturing your baby, but these little surprises often don’t get mentioned.

4. You and Your Baby Are Both Learning

Another myth is that breastfeeding should just "click" right away. The reality? Breastfeeding is a learning curve for both you and your baby.

Just like you’re figuring out different holds and positions, your baby’s learning how to latch and feed. Some babies get the hang of it right away, but others need a bit more time. And that’s okay. Every feed is a chance for both of you to figure each other out. It might take a few days or even weeks to get into a rhythm, but it’ll happen.

5. You’ll Need More Support Than You Think

There’s a misconception that breastfeeding is something you do on your own. But the truth is, you’re going to need a support system, whether it’s a lactation consultant, mom friends who’ve been there, or just your partner cheering you on.

There will be tough moments – trust me – and having someone who can offer advice or even just listen can make all the difference. Breastfeeding can feel really lonely at times, so having a solid support system is key.

6. It Takes More Time Than You Expect

Most people will tell you breastfeeding takes time. I don’t think anyone really talks about just how much time it can eat up, especially in those early weeks. You might feel like you’re constantly feeding because, honestly, you are. It’s normal, but it can also be exhausting.

Setting up little feeding stations around your house with water, snacks, and something to watch or read can make those long feeding sessions a bit more manageable.

7. There’s Real Power in Sticking With It

The misconception here is that breastfeeding success is measured by how long you do it. But that’s not the case. The most beautiful part of breastfeeding that often gets overlooked is the sense of accomplishment you’ll feel as you hit different milestones.

Whether you breastfeed for a few days, weeks, or months, each moment you spend feeding your baby is important.

The challenges you overcome, the bond you build – it all adds up to a really unique story that becomes part of your motherhood journey.

It’s hard work, but it’s incredibly rewarding too.

Final Thoughts

Every mom’s breastfeeding experience is different, and there’s no one “right” way to do it. I’ve learned, both as a mother and someone who documents these early moments that sharing the honest, sometimes messy truths about breastfeeding helps create a supportive community. Whether you’re just starting or you’ve been on this journey for a while, know that you’re not alone in the struggles, the questions, or the joys.

Breastfeeding is hard, but it’s also beautiful in its own way. And every mom’s story is special – including yours.